Stop Comparing : Start Succeeding !

 Hellooo Everyone! Today, I want to take you back to your school days. Were you a front bencher or back bencher? You know society often considers the front benchers as the toppers and the backbenchers as the losers. Well I believe in what our former president, Abdul Kalam said, “The best brains of the nation may be found on the last benches of the classroom”. From the experiences and stories that I have heard, I came to know that the front benchers may know how to top the class but the back  benchers often have a  deeper understanding of how to be the real topper of life. And then there is that middle group, like me 😉,  the ones that don’t fit in either category. We often find ourselves stuck in the middle trying to succeed both in life and class, chasing for the ideas to be a topper.

I guess I am deviating away from the main point I wanted to share with you. Let’s get back to those old school memories. Life was so simple back then, wasn’t it? The only worries were exams and the results. Ok I agree waiting for or getting marks wasn’t a good memory at least for some of us. But let me ask you this, What was the first thing you did after getting the marks card? You must have taken a glance at your friend's card to know how much they scored, isn’t it. If their marks were the same as yours or slightly lower then well and good. Otherwise a tiny part of you would feel disappointed, wasn’t it or you were telling me it was not like that? I bet at least the front benchers can relate to this. But why do we feel this way? Have you ever thought of it? This is not something that happens only in school. Maybe it started in our school days and continues everywhere. In our job, our relationships, friendships everywhere. We always find ourselves measuring our progress against others.

The problem is that we always wanted to be the best. We want to stand out, be recognised and want people to notice us. But take a moment and think, does comparison really brings you joy and happiness or does it steal your joy? When you keep measuring yourself against others, you will always feel unhappy. Instead shift your focus on your own life and keep building it slowly. Train your mind to think “ I don’t want to know how others are doing, I just need to focus on my own growth”. Ok, now don’t get me wrong. If a friend comes to you for help, maybe they will be struggling with their grades or feeling low at work, you should absolutely support them. In fact, helping others helps you grow.  But when you are comparing yourself you are not improving but instead you are actually holding yourself back.

Never try to imitate other people, no matter how good their path seems to be. You might think that copying a friend's study habits to score good grades or following a colleague’s footsteps at work will lead you to success. But the reality is true success comes from being yourself. Aim for success just because you want to, not because someone else is ahead of you.

Everyone in this world is born with a unique talent, and that includes you. Instead of comparing yourself to others, focus on discovering and building your own strengths. I know you all can do the best and I trust in you. All the best, keep moving forward, don't stop in between to compare. And don’t forget to keep your beautiful smile on your beautiful face. Have a beautiful and blessed day.