What Others Think of Me !

 There is a quote saying “ You’ll never be happy if you constantly worry what others think about you “. Do you have this problem in your life ?

Any way I had. 

I used to think what others would think if I do this, or dress like this, and so on. 

But would they really think so?

Or do they even have the time to think of us ? Everybody is busy with their own life.

And what is the problem if they think so?

Anyway, others' thinking is not going to decide our life.


Do you know how I try to come out of this thinking?

It's a secret but I will share it with you :)

One day someone told me this. “ if you worry that a person is thinking badly about your dress or something. On the other hand that person will be actually worrying the same. Maybe he will be worrying that we are thinking something bad of him”. So whenever I think about what others will be thinking of me this comes to my mind.

So why should I worry?

Anyway he is also thinking like me. 


Actually why would we even worry about this? I think it's just because we want to be a good person in front of him. We fear if not, we will lose their friendship or any other relationship with them. It shouldn't be like that. A true friend should know all our characters. There is no need to build something in front of them worrying what he will think about me.

 Worrying about what others think can mentally affect our health. We will be losing our self confidence. We will be in a situation where we don't even have the courage to walk in a public crowd.


But sometimes rarely it will even help us to correct our mistakes. Take everything in a positive sense. If others think anything negative of me, let them have the courage to tell it to me. Then surely I can correct my mistakes. Nobody benefits by  keeping it  in their own mind. 


We should keep in mind the words of former President of India, A P J Abdul Kalam Sir “ If you believe you are right, but still people criticize you, hurt you, shout at you, don’t bother. Just remember that ‘ In every game, only the audience makes noise, not players.’ Be a player. Believe in yourself. And do the best.”


There should not be any role for others in our life. We should control and guide our life. We shouldn't worry about what others think. If we give space to others then they will be going to decide our fate. Live life as we wish. Do what we like. Enjoy your beautiful life. And don't forget to keep your beautiful smile on your face.  :)

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